bigstock-child-Head-Children-Learn-to-t-25539401In her fantastic book, The How of Happiness, Sonja Lyubomirsky says that the evidence is clear, “overthinking is bad for you.”

It leads to excessive worry, anxiety and a heightened fight or flight response.

It’s difficult to be happy when you are ruminating about all the things that could have gone better, should have turned out differently or would have been your saving grace, had they happened.

We can only be happy in the now. That is, in the moment. Learning how to savor the moment or count our blessings in the moment moves us out of the past and out of the future and into the now, where happiness and stress reduction happens.

So the next time you find yourself thinking about what could have, would have or should have been, just stop overthinking and start appreciating the now moment, where you can actually do something about your excessive worry.